Posted on December 12, 2016 in Family Law

Are you a divorced parent who is tired of fighting with your ex about how your kids are being raised? Are you ready to take steps toward a more cooperative attitude? While it may not be possible in every situation, the winter holiday season could provide an opportunity for you and your child’s other parent to reconcile a bit and become better co-parents for your child.

Make the First Move

If you and your ex have been separated or divorced for an extended period of time, a joint holiday may be possible. For those who have just gone through a divorce, the wounds may still be too fresh and the healing has only just begun. Over the years, however, you may have found a sense of peace in your new life, especially if you have remarried or found another partner who makes you happy. In this peace, you may find the courage to sincerely apologize to your ex for your role in the breakdown of your relationship and offer your forgiveness for his or her actions.

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 Posted on December 10, 2016 in Property Division

Divorce can be a very complicated process with a large number of controversial issues for the spouses to resolve. Child custody—now called the allocation of parental responsibilities—is often high on the list of contentious topics, as one might expect, but for many couples, property concerns can be just as challenging. One of the biggest points of contention regarding property in a divorce is determining which assets and debts are part of the marital estate and, therefore, subject to division between the spouses.

Cultural changes have contributed to the difficulty of identifying marital property since more and more couples are waiting longer to get married for the first time. In previous generations, it was not uncommon for a couple to get married soon after high school or college, leaving each spouse very little time to accumulate wealth or debts before the marriage. By comparison, today’s couples are likely to spend a decade or more after high school earning money and acquiring property before deciding to get married.

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 Posted on December 05, 2016 in Divorce

When you fill out an application or questionnaire that inquires about your marital status, you are usually given several options: “single,” “married,” or “divorced.” Sometimes, the choices are a little more diverse and include possibilities such as “single – never married,” “widowed,” and “legally separated.” This can be a source of confusion for some people as they consider their own relationship situation. If legally separated is a choice, does that mean that is a necessary stepping stone on the way to a divorce?

Legal Separation

To answer the question simply, you do not need to be legally separated before you can file for a divorce in Illinois. In fact, while legal separation is an option that is available under the law, it is one that not often utilized. A legal separation may be sought if the couple wishes to sever most of the ties each spouse has with the other without actually ending the marriage. Following a legal separation, the couple may agree to divide property, but will need to make arrangements for any children they have together. The spouses, however, remain legally married to one another and may not marry again until and unless a divorce is completed. Couples may choose to seek a legal separation for many reasons, but financial and religious considerations are often among the most common.

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 Posted on December 02, 2016 in Divorce

When your marriage seems destined for divorce, it is important to start preparing yourself for the process. From a practical standpoint, this may include putting aside some money in an emergency fund, compiling a list of your assets and debts, and, possibly, looking for a new place to live. Your preparations should also include a search for a reliable divorce attorney to help you through proceedings. Going through a divorce without a lawyer can be dangerous and could end up costing you more than you might expect.

To find an attorney, you will want to compile a list of possible candidates, perhaps taking recommendations from friends and loved ones. As you go through your list, reach out to each firm with a list of concerns that will help you narrow down your choices. For example, the attorney you choose should be able to provide satisfactory answers to questions such as:

• How long have you been practicing handling divorce and family law cases? An attorney with significant experience is likely to have a firm grasp of the process and can provide valuable insight along the way.

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 Posted on November 23, 2016 in Prenuptial and Postnuptial Agreements

Family-owned businesses are the backbone of the American economy. Some 90 percent of all businesses are family-owned or, at the very least, controlled by the families who started them. Many owners of family businesses look forward to the day that they can turn over the day-to-day operations to the next generation, never even considering how a divorce might wreak havoc on their professional and business-related plans. If you are a business owner who is thinking about getting married, you may want to execute a prenuptial agreement to be sure that your company is not affected by a potential divorce.

Marital or Non-Marital Property

According to Illinois law, if you own a business prior to getting married, your existing interest in the company will, in most cases, be considered separate or non-marital property in the event of a divorce. Things can get very complicated, however, as you make improvements to your business and invest your personal efforts in increasing the company’s value during your marriage. Depending on the specific circumstances, the increase in value and retained earnings generated by your business during your marriage could be considered part of the marital estate and, therefore, subject to division in divorce.

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 Posted on November 21, 2016 in Family Law

It is hard to believe that we have reached mid-November already. Just a few short weeks ago, it seems, we were turning the calendar over to 2016 and now the year is nearly over. As the leaves fall to the ground and suggestions of snow creep into the weather forecasts, there is a silver lining. The winter holiday season is fast approaching, beginning with Thanksgiving this week and continuing through New Year’s Day well into January. For divorced, separated, or unmarried parents, the winter holidays can certainly be a fun, rewarding experience, but they can also become very stressful without the proper planning.

Communicate and Compromise

When you and your child’s other parent share parenting time around the holidays, it is very important to be patient and flexible with one another. Family get-togethers often unexpectedly run long and traffic can be unpredictable. Make plans in advance regarding who will be responsible for pickups and drop-offs, but be gracious and courteous when things do not go exactly as you planned.

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 Posted on November 16, 2016 in Child Custody and Support

Following a divorce or a breakup between unmarried parents, arrangements must be made regarding care of the children. It is important to get such considerations in written form and approved by the court to be sure that neither parent’s rights are compromised along the way. If you are a parent in such a situation and you cannot reach an agreement with your former partner, the court has the authority to impose whatever arrangements it deems appropriate for your case.

The court decision, of course, must be based on provisions in the law—specifically the terms of the Illinois Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act. Child support obligations notwithstanding, there are two primary areas of concern that are included within the realm of the allocation of parental responsibilities, previously known as child custody.

Significant Decision-Making Responsibilities

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 Posted on November 14, 2016 in Spousal Maintenance

A few weeks ago, a post on this blog discussed how an obligation for spousal maintenance—sometimes called alimony—is to be calculated during a divorce in Illinois. Maintenance is intended to ease the economic impact of a divorce on a spouse at a relative financial disadvantage. But what if the financial disadvantage is somewhat self-imposed? What if the lower earning spouse could be earning more but is choosing not to do so? It may come as a surprise to learn that the court in Illinois is empowered to take action in such cases and to make a decision that is equitable to both parties.

What the Law Says

According to the Illinois Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act, a court is expected to take into account the income, resources, and employability of each spouse when deciding if maintenance is needed. The law also provides a formula to be used in cases where the couple’s combined income is less than $250,000 and there are no support obligations from a previous relationship. A recent appellate court ruling, however, upheld a lower court’s decision to add to a spouse’s individual income based on his marketable skills and employability, due to the fact that he was earning significantly less than his potential.

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 Posted on November 09, 2016 in Divorce

When you and your spouse have decided to end your marriage, you may start receiving a great deal of unsolicited advice from friends and family members about how you should proceed. Some may be telling you to hire an aggressive lawyer and get everything you can from your spouse during the proceedings. Others could be suggesting that you should just sit back and see what your spouse is going to do before you make any decisions. Such advice is also available from countless websites and online resources, creating a virtual cacophony of conflicting information for you at a difficult time. Amidst the confusion, there is one divorce option that is often overlooked but that may provide an avenue for finalizing the process quickly and efficiently. It is called an uncontested divorce and, if you and your spouse can work together despite your differences, it may be ideal for your situation.

Uncontested Divorce Defined

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 Posted on November 07, 2016 in Mediation

For many divorcing couples, mediation provides an avenue for discussing and negotiating the terms of a divorce settlement, helping them avoid the complications of courtroom litigation. When mediation is appropriate, it can provide many benefits, including saving substantial time and money, increased participation from both parties, and a resulting divorce judgment that reflects the needs and desires of everyone involved.

While mediation can certainly be a very valuable tool for a couple in the midst of a divorce, the process is not always the best choice. In some cases, mediation may even prove to be detrimental to reaching an equitable resolution. You may want to consider litigation for your divorce if:

1. Your Spouse Does Not Want a Divorce

It is understandable that you and your spouse may not be on exactly the same page when it comes to making arrangements for your divorce, but—to continue with the metaphor—you should at least be reading the same book if mediation is going to work. If you want a divorce but your spouse does not, there is very little chance that he or she will be amenable to the negotiation process. In time, he or she may be open to the idea of mediation, but if that does not happen, litigation may be your only option.

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